..::Islamic Thoughts Regarding Marriage.

Islam recognizes value of sex and advocates marriage. Islam does not believe in celibacy.

The Prophet of Islam has said,

Marriage is my Sunnah (that is a recommended action of the Prophet) and whoever does not

follow my Sunnah is not my true follower” (Ibn Haiah, Babun Nikah).

Allah has commanded the Muslims to marry:

“And marry those among you who are single…. “(24: 33).

In Islam, marriage is essentially a contract. However, the distinction between sacred and

secular was never explicit in Islam. Any action or transaction in Islam has religious

implications. It is not quite accurate, therefore, to designate marriage in Islam simply as a

secular contract. The appropriate designation of marriage could be a ‘Divine Institution’.

For a valid marriage, the following conditions must be satisfied:

·  There must be a clear proposal.

·  There must be a clear acceptance.

·  There must be at least two competent witnesses. This is necessary to exclude illicit sex

and to safeguard legitimacy of progeny. It is recommended that marriage should be

widely publicized.

·  There must be a marriage gift, little or more, by the bridegroom to the bride.

Dowry or marriage gift by bridegroom to the bride is a symbolic expression of the groom’s

cognizance of the economic responsibilities of marriage and of his readiness to assume all

such responsibilities subsequent to marriage. Dowry is not any price paid either to wife or

family of the wife. The general principle is that dowry should be estimated according to the

circumstances with emphasis on moderation. The Prophet (p.b.u.h.) is reported to have said

that the most blessed marriage is that which is least costly and most easy.

It is permissible for a Muslim man to see the woman to whom he intends to propose marriage

before taking further steps so that he can enter into the marriage with full knowledge. This has

been permitted in Islam to avoid future misunderstanding. The Prophet (p.b.u.h.) has said:

“When one of you asks for woman in marriage, if he is able to look at what will induce him to

marry her; he should do so” (narrated in the book of tradition of Abu Daud).

However; it is not permitted in Islam for a man to be alone with a woman in the name of

selection of spouse.

It is the girl’s right to make a decision concerning her marriage and her father or guardian has

no right to over-ride her objections or ignore her wishes. The Prophet (peace be upon him)

has said:

“A woman who has been previously married has more right concerning her person than her

guardian and a virgin’s consent must be asked about herself, her consent being her silence”

(narrated in the books of tradition of Bukhari and Muslim).

It is permanently prohibited for a Muslim to marry a woman of the following categories:

1. father’s wife, whether divorced or widowed,

2. the mother including grand mothers,

3. the daughter including grand daughters,

4. the sisters including half and step sisters,

5. the paternal aunt, whether real, half or step sister of the aunt,

6. the maternal aunt, whether real, half or step sister of father;

7. the brother’s daughter and

8. the sister’s daughter.

These restrictions have been imposed by Allah in His wisdom to increase trust among close

relations by prohibiting incestuous relations, increase love and affection among close

relations, expand family ties beyond close circle etc.

In Islam marriage is also prohibited with foster mother who has suckled him during the period

of weaning and with foster sisters, foster aunt and foster nieces.

Islam has also prohibited marriage with mother in law, the step daughter; the daughter in law.

Islam has also forbidden to have two sisters as co-wives.

It is also prohibited to marry a woman who is a Mushrik, that is who worships idols or

associates other deities with Allah. Allah says in His book, the Quran:

“And do not marry Mushrik women until they believe” (2:221).

It is however lawful for Muslim men to marry chaste women (that is women of virtue and

character) from among the Jews and the Christians. Allah says in His book:

“(And lawful to you in marriage) are chaste women from those who were given the scripture

before you” (5 : 5).

“It is not permissible for Muslim women to marry non-Muslim men” (2 : 221 and 60:10).

Allah has been more kind to the woman and has not put on her extra stress and probable

difficulties in living with a husband of another faith.

Islam has allowed man to marry more than one (not exceeding four) women but has put

serious restrictions on this. It requires his ability to maintain more than one wife, equality

among the wives etc. It is for this reason that very few Muslim men marry more than one

woman. Islam has allowed this to man to curb illicit sex. Illicit sex is a very degenerating thing

for humanity and leads to debasement of women through prostitution. Islam has totally

rejected prostitution.

Islamic law regarding marriage is easy, practical, rational and in keeping with human nature.

Humanity can only benefit by following these regulations in true spirit.

3 comments on “..::Islamic Thoughts Regarding Marriage.

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